Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Not All Posts Have to Be Long

Pffffffft. You call those Jazz Hands?

I'm really just passing time right now while I get over the fact that what I've been working on is still "in discussion".

Ah, the life of a software developer. Expected to go forth and produce the most amazing piece of software to the exact needs for all clients and managers everywhere and to meet and exceed all expectations.

Oh... and get it done before the due date and make sure it contains all of the specifications. You know, those specifications THAT HAVEN'T EVEN BEEN DECIDED ON YET!

Oh yeah. It's that awesome.

Beep Beep Beep Beep

I've been pondering a "plan B" lately. You know, the "if I wasn't doing this, what would I want to do?" question that we all ask ourselves. I'm a software engineer and I really do love computers and knowing the ins and outs of software development, but really... sometimes the stress is just way more then it should be.

I realize that a lot of this stress is self induced while I try to maintain a day job and start up my own business and making sure that I'm a good family man. So would plan B even offer any relief?

Ponder. Ponder. Ponder.

Day Care

Isabella has 99% decided that she is going to head back into the work force. I can tell she's being super strong about the change, but being her husband I know that internally she's conflicted with the goods and the bads. Just because the "goods" may outweigh the "bads" doesn't make the bads any easier to handle.

I'm proud of her decision - and I told her that the decision was all hers. It's not like we need it financially, but I can also tell that she's starting to get a little stir crazy and wanting to feel more apart of the financial success of this family - as well as furthering her knowledge and expertise in a field that she enjoys. Sewing can only offer so much "success" feeling. There is something to be said about working for a company where you are treated in a way that let's you know you are contributing to the success of the organization.

I think she misses that. I'm glad and proud that she's doing what she thinks is best for her.

This... however... has introduced us to the world of day care. Since "B", our best friend, godmother, nanny - watched Niamonster when Isabella worked part time at the beginning, and then Isabella being a stay at home mom - we've never had to look around for day care options. But we feel that Niamonster is old enough to start hanging out on her own (well... supervised but not by us) and expanding her social skills without mommy and daddy to always cling to.

We'll see how this goes.


I am pretty excited that this means that Niamonster will be all mine in the morning. Sure, it's great having Isabella around all the time, but having her as a SAHM means that daddy doesn't get much one on one time. With this new situation I'll be getting up with the kiddo, dressing her for the day, driving her to and picking her up from the day care. Hearing all the stories about how good (or bad) she was and what they did during the day.

Oh yeah. So awesome.

I will for sure keep all posted on how things are going with the day care/work/dad is awesome things in life.

Day Care Yay! / or / Day Care Nay.


Papa Bradstein said...

Funny on many levels. I'm listening to a webcast on best practices for gathering requirements for SharePoint implementations. I was the daycare dropoff/pickup man until 3B started going to preschool. It's great, and it's heartwrenching.

ShankRabbit said...

Uuuuugh... MOSS and SharePoint - I'd rather stick forks in my eyes.

I'm really looking forward to the picking up and that "DADDDDYYY!!!!"

PJ Mullen said...

I'm kind of at the opposite spectrum as you in that I'm waiting on our developers to deliver our product. They are six weeks overdue, but I'm not harping on them. I want it done right since I have to attach my name to it and I'd rather it be right than done on schedule. It means I'll probably lose a few potential sales in the mean time, but it's all good.

I know exactly how your wife feels, I've been going stir crazy at home with our son and wishing that I was contributing to our financial life. It is a very difficult thing.

surprised mom said...

I have worked full time, part time and very part time during our marriage. It's important to me to contribute financially to the family. When I was out of work between the journalism gig and the retail gig, almost a year, I nearly went out of my mind because of the financial stress. I don't have to worry about daycare because my girls are teens. One is in college (or will be on her way to start college in a few short hours) and the other is in high school.
I didn't send my girls to daycare because I was a SAHM, working freelance. But, I figure every family must do what's right for them. Happy parents make happy children make happy families.
BTW, I'm in a totally different field than I went to college for. I'm having a blast. I hope if you're looking for a change, you find what you enjoy.

Otter Thomas said...

My wife will be going back to work some day too. It will be a tough adjustment for us all. Have fun with your alone time.